My partner and I have been together for a few years now, we’re both in our mid 20’s, married for almost 12 months and have an almost 2 year old child.
I love my partner, with all my heart, and I would never do anything intentional to hurt them, in any way shape or form. However, my partner has succumbed to a life-long condition that causes severe nerve pain, there is no cure, there is only temporary surgical remedies that may or may not help. This has effectively ground our love life into non-existence…. neither my partner, nor myself have high sex drives, but the complete lack of physical intimacy is almost painful after a while. The toll it takes on my partner is so severe they take weeks off work to rest, they can’t study due to pain, they struggle to parent through the fatigue… I love my partner with all my heart, they give my life meaning in every conceivable way except physical. When I said my vows, I meant it when I said “through sickness and health” and I have 0 (ZERO) intention to leave or do anything that may hurt my partner, but I feel like I’m missing something…. what the hell should I do?