I’ve been married for 7 years. I’m in the military so we’ve been apart for some of those. As time has gone on, sex has fallen off a lot. I was hurt as a kid, so sometimes my sex drive is below average. I have anxiety about intimacy, I’m working on it. My problem; it’s been a few months since the last time we had sex, then suddenly I kind of got my mojo back. I’ve been working hard to be a better partner.  It’s different, the sex. She touches me differently. She feels different. I’m not sure what to do. If I bring it up I know it will make her self conscious. She has anxiety when it comes to sex. I’m just afraid it’s different because something happened and I don’t want that to be the case. I’m a paranoid person and I try not to put that on her, its not fair. But how can I ask and put my fears to rest?