We have some friends who we suspected were swingers. No big deal each is own. My hubby Mike and I had discussed trying it. One day John was texting Mike and he was driving so he told me to answer and encouraged me to flirt with John. Johns wife was with him too.

So, things happened they are great. Mike texts Joan and John and I text none of us hide anything. Joan drinks a lot and the other night was out with Mike and John, but she started telling Mike I was coming between her and John. Not my intentions at all, I love my husband!

I get there and Joan starts telling me she’s never seen John have a connection with another female in all their years swinging like he does with me. I told her I have no intentions nor am  i trying to cause problems. I would be happy to stop or back off she said no.

She wants to have a special connection with Mike and if it was okay with me she was going to work on that. Nothing new she sexts him etc and I don’t mind.

John and I do have a connection, I see him as my best friend with benefits. I never meet with him without Joan or Mike there, we don’t call one another everything is done through text or in person with their presence.

what should I do? Tell John or ask him about this, just back off (which if I don’t text him he wonders what’s going on), or how do I handle this?