I need some advice. I’ve been friends with a guy who is 8 years younger than me, for about 6 years. I’m 38 and he’s 31. I’ve always enjoyed his company and valued him as a good friend… But never thought of him any other way. A year into our friendship he said he felt much much more for me. I was in a relationship at the time so I turned him down and quite honestly could not see myself dating a younger man really. Years passed, we’ve kept in touch, though we were based in different cities etc. He’s had his share of relationships and I’ve had mine. And we found ourselves back in the same city, both out of our respective relationships. Things developed during a road trip we took together. We ended up sleeping together etc. The sex wasn’t amazing which might have largely been due to my apprehension. But the closeness and affection was lovely.
I honestly am very confused. Do I let this run its course naturally. I don’t want to be the heart broken one eventually. Does he just want sex or is he up for more and should I ask. While I never thought about whether I should or should not message or call him…. I’m suddenly finding I’m worried about appearing needy, desperate etc. What do you think?