Hey there, 

So I had been seeing this girl for the past five months or so. We would go on dates at least twice a week, dinners, walks, you name it. 

Maybe four months into it she sort of asks the ‘what are we’ question. I told her honestly that I wasn’t looking for anything serious, and that I had just recently gotten out of a long term relationship. She said she was looking for something serious. 

We kept hanging out as usual for a few more weeks. Just last week we went on a nice date together and she basically said I don’t want to be F buddies, we can be friends or not but that’s kind of where I’m at. I had said we should give it a shot. 

She was taken back ‘well you didn’t want to do that stuff before, you didn’t seem into meeting my friends or anything’ 


I agreed to giving it a real shot because I think there’s something there between us. 

Over the next week she had been somewhat distant. When we got together yesterday she basically said I can’t do this anymore. You said we weren’t serious and then we were. I was confused and now I can’t go back to seeing this as serious when you said it wasn’t. I’m really sorry, maybe we can be friends some day etc etc. 

I guess I’m just trying to get my head around this. It’s been like three days since we spoke. She’s a special girl and I do think there’s a good relationship here. Wondering what you all think. 

Any help is appreciated.