Just need advice from someone that isn’t biased.

So, let’s say you grew up with this guy. We’ll call him Jessie. So you and Jessie grew up together. His mom grew up with your mom. And he lived next door to you your whole life. One day, when you’re 15, you guys decide to give it a go romantically. But right before you turn 17, you guys break up because he was getting into drugs. And as you’re breaking up with him, he tells you, “I’ll only wait for you a year.” Then eventually you fall in love with someone else. We’ll call him Wyatt. Well, after almost exactly a year, Jessie hangs himself. You grieve his loss, and Wyatt gets mad and jealous. But now it’s been 2 years since Jessie has passed, and you’re still sad about it sometimes. Not all the time but it still comes and goes. Is it okay for Wyatt to be mad about you grieving Jessie? What’s your input on this? I’m sorry I know you probably didn’t intend to get on here and talk about something like this, but I have no one to ask. I don’t want to ask someone who knows me, my ex, or my current bf. Because they’ll just say what I want to hear or something that defends one of us. And I wanted an honest opinion.

One thought on “Just need advice from someone that isn’t biased.

  1. First off, don’t feel responsible for any of this because it sounds like you’re beating yourself up over it. Second, Wyatt’s a dick. Jessie has passed and Wyatt’s jealousy shouldn’t play a factor for the deceased.
    And third,

    I’m 25, when I was a teenager, all of the thoughts that you, Jessie and Wyatt have, I’ve had all of them.
    I’ve gotten into drugs, I’ve thought about scuicide, threatened it to a girl I loved, and have had super jealous moments in the past.
    My highschool friend is now homeless because of drugs and Im sad and beat myself up over it because I introduced him to it and he won’t accept any Help from me.
    All of these things revolve on one thing (I believe) and that’s all the extra hormones that teenagers have. Once you get past the Ripe age of 20-21, Wyatt won’t be the way he is about it now and you’ll find something along the lines of acceptance instead of grievance with Jessie.

    I am sorry for your lost though, that is extremely tough.

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