So, as a man I feel some shame around not wanting sex ALL the time. So when my fiancée wants it – if I don’t wNt to, I am at least honest and will say, “I love you, and I don’t want to have sex right now”.
she sees it as rejection which makes me feel like shit or like a piss poor partner who can’t meet the needs she has. It’s causing a strain on my own self-perception and our relationship. I also feel weird because if she didn’t want to – I wouldn’t want her to just suffer through it. Plus we all know bodies don’t work that way.