My fiancé (m) & I have a 2 month old together. Recently I stumbled across some porn he left in an open tab. Normally it’s whatever, but it was futanari, so I was kind of confused, as I had been under the impression he was a straight male. I talked to him about it, he said that he liked what he liked and that his sexuality was more of a spectrum, he said he was kidding and then basically said well actually if I had to identify I guess it would be as pansexual. he says he’s comfortable with his sexuality, but since I’m only hearing of it just now, I feel otherwise.

I’m not really sure how to feel honestly. I feel like he’s hidden something from me, I feel like it’s mildly kind of a betrayal because he said that he had found some of our male friends attractive, said he didn’t do anything because of me, but that he almost banged an ex roommate who was a transitioning mtf but backed out. I just feel really confused, it’s like he’s a different person.