Anonymous Relationship Advice


I’ve been with my fiance for a total of almost 5 years and we’ve been engaged for a little over 3. He has a lot of health issues. He is unable to work and is on disability. Which I encouraged him to do when he got really sick. So I work full time and pay all the bills he does give me $400 a month but lately I’ve been running low on money I only get paid every two weeks. Plus I am not 100% healthy myself I have a lot of medical bills. I feel like I’m barely able to keep my head above water. And we haven’t had sex in I couldn’t tell you how long. Not that it’s all that important to me but I just don’t feel sexy or wanted any more. I don’t think that he would be able to make it on his own. So I feel obligated to stay with him. I love him i honestly really do but I’m just at a loss. I have no idea what to do. And I don’t want to talk to friends or family about this cause I know it won’t stay between us. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

One Response

  1. TherapistRC says:

    Hi, thank you for sharing your current situation. I’m sorry to hear that your health is declining and that you’re unsure if this relationship is for you. It can be very difficult to feel like you’re with someone only out of obligation rather than out of pure happiness. Have you presented your concerns to your partner before? Does he know that you’re struggling financially, as well as would like to be more sexual? Sometimes we keep these things to ourselves because we don’t want to seem pushy but then our needs are not met. That way both of you can better consider your options. I hope this is helpful.

    Best, RC

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