catch and release only
I’m in my late 30’s, am told I am a handsome guy, have dated many women, slept with more than 40 women (nearly all in the last 5 years), but I have never been in a long-term relationship. I’ve had a small handful of relationships in the 3-5 month range, but many more flings and 2-3 weekers. The woman I’m seeing right now doesn’t want an exclusive relationship right now (claims she is still getting over her ex)… and I get this story over and over. I don’t know what to do. This will read strangely, I’m sure, but I feel like women use me. On the regular. I honestly think women view me as someone that would be fun to have sex with, but not relationship-worthy. I have serious anxiety problems, which are probably at the core of this issue, but I’m getting really sick of this narrative. And I fall in love like a motherfucker. This latest woman, for example.. we’re intimate, I’ve totally fallen for her, and she won’t give me an inch emotionally. It kills me. and I know the whole push-pull dynamic, and how pulling away makes women want you, but I hate that shit. I just want to be myself with women, not playing mind games.